I was at the gym the other day, and the following random thought popped into my head, “Too many of us spend way too much effort trying to appear normal.”
In that moment I realized two things. The first; was how powerful this natural urge that we all have to be ‘normal’ is. The second thing; was how destructive this urge can be, especially if we harbor dreams of doing grander things with our lives.
I recognized that if we are always over concerned with what others think of us, we set ourselves up for living a very limited and potentially boring life.
I don’t know about you, but I like the idea of freedom. knowing I have the freedom to grow, the freedom to expand, and the freedom to become whoever the heck I want to be is exhilarating.
If you want to rock life and leave a legacy, you are going to need to learn how to build confidence like a boss. If you’re a big thinker like I am, you’ve most likely envisioned all that you hope to achieve in your life.
However, one of the aspects that many of us accidentally leave out in the consideration of our grand ambitions, is the prospect of the unnerving risks that we must eventually confront to successfully progress towards those dreams.
The purpose of today’s post is to arm you, with a handful of some of the most effective methods for building your confidence. This way, when those pesky unforeseen fear inducing challenges pop up as you march towards toward your big goals, you will be in conquer mode, and better prepared to successfully manage those fears like a boss.
There is an old saying that goes “No Guts, No Glory”. Is it cliche to utter this phrase these days? I don’t know, maybe it is on the cusp of being outdated and overused.
What I do know, is that it is a truth. It is as real as gravity. It is an incontrovertible law of the universe, and anybody wanting to crush life and achieve greatly needs to live by it.
If you find yourself on some high mountain top, not playing by the rules of gravity, not respecting it, it will lead to a loss of life.
Like gravity, if a person is trying to bring a dream or goal into reality, but doesn’t respect the law of risk, it will lead to a loss of more than life. It will lead to a loss of time, resources, effort, and spirit.
Glory will always be off in the distance, if we don’t take the risks necessary to bring us closer to it. If you don’t challenge your boundaries, if you don’t take the risks needed to move forward, you will stagnate. Like a tree, if we are not growing, we are dying.
Early in my professional career I had what every young aspiring professional usually wants, especially right after graduating from college. For starters, I was offered employment before my last semester had even officially ended.
Just three days after I walked the stage at my Alma mater, I found myself employed as a contractor with the U.S. Department of Defense. The job was in an entirely new city, which added a sense of adventure. And I was getting paid quite handsomely.
Astonishingly, just two years later, I would find myself working in an even bigger city, with a ‘hipper’ company, and a cushier job, all the while receiving an even larger pay check (40% higher). One would think such outcomes would lead to higher levels of happiness and fulfillment for a person.
Oddly; this was not the case for me. I had this nagging feeling inside of me at the time. It was this internal sense that I wasn’t living up to my potential. I just wasn’t fulfilled with what I was doing. Maybe you can relate.
Fear can have a huge impact on how our lives’ turn out. It can limit us from living a happy fulfilled life. Fear can keep us from success, it can keep us from fulfillment; it can keep us from becoming our best self.
It’s an unfortunate fact that many of us go through our days, allowing ourselves to live with a lack of confidence. We allow ourselves to be defeated by our fears.
We let fear conquer us, when we let it keep us from applying for our dream jobs. When we let fear hinder our ability to take action on starting that big life-changing project we’ve been meaning to launch, we lose to fear as well . We also lose to fear when we let it discourage us from approaching that person who might have been our one true love, our ideal partner, our soulmate. Regrettably, we all too often allow fear to be the driver in our lives.
When we let our fears dictate what we do, we pay a price.